Hello All,
the time is almost here for 2008. I can not believe the year has gone by so fast. Where did 2007 go? Well, another year awaits. The kids and i miss our normal schedules and activities. We have been in a vacation mode since December 15th, 2007. So, it kind of feels a little drab after awhile. :) It was nice to see family and friends, to cook lots and lots of goodies, and to spend time with each other.
Enzo is so ready to go back to school. He wakes up at 7am every morning and brushes his teeth, combs his hair, and then gets his book bag. As for Ales, he would rather sleep until 10am. We have never been sleepy heads, but when there is no schedule--we tend to sleep in, but not for long.
This week, I have been trying to do a before-new-year house cleaning. I have arranged the bookshelves and the kids bookshelves. It was a mess. I have collected all of the old clothes, toys, and misc. items to donate. I have thoroughly dusted under beds, closets, attic, and all of the rooms. Washed all the clothes and folded and put them away. Luis cleaned the yard, the car (inside and out) by hand, and changed the oil. He is such a big help. Oh yeah, he did the dishes this morning too. :)
Now i feel ready for the new year. It is going to be a blast. Its just a couple of us, but it is fun. We all make a pot luck get together. So, all of us must contribute to the grub and drink. The kids all combine their fireworks together to share. The big explosives---we save for midnight. Well, I hope ya'll have a great time also. If i forget to say it later......HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! :)
Monday, December 31, 2007
Sunday, December 9, 2007
Family
A family to me is : togetherness, caring, compassion, loyalty....The list goes on with other adjectives that describe a positive relationship of a family. I am writing about this today because my family: Luis, Enzo, and Ales mean the world to me. I am not very close to my "other" family like my mom, dad, aunts and uncles. I never have. My grandmother was the only family i had. She cared for me and raised me to be the mother and person that i am today. Now that i have my family--i understand what a big family is and does.
The problem is that i have alot of conflicting issues with my in-laws. They do not understand that our boys only have them to be close to because of my "other" family situation. Now, that my grandmother has passed away--they are the only extended family our kids have. My husband says that we are all the boys need, but i still feel that the role of grandma, grandpa, aunts, uncles, and cousins are important in a young childs life.
So, most of the 8 years i have been with my husband has been trying to nurture this relationship with my in-laws for my kids. It hasn't worked. I am constantly being left out of gatherings between my sister-inlaws and my father-in-law plays favoritism among the grandkids. I don't understand why i never got a chance to fit in, but it's not just me anymore---our boys are beginning to feel the inequality of the relationship between them and their cousins, aunts, and grandpa.
My sister, aunt, mother, and father inlaw have always treated me like i was just a passerby-- since day one. They do not give me any kind of respect, which i do not tolerate... i will actually come out and confront the problem. They then turn everything on me and make me look like the bad guy. Even when they know they are wrong they will all group together against me. My husband has been in alot of arguments with them about this, but i tell him that this is my battle. I feel bad that my husband has a wife that his family does not get along with. What is sad is that i have tried so hard to fit in. I have voluntarily babysitted, arranged get togethers between my sister-laws and i, and tried to bond with my mother inlaw. Well, everytime i was blocked. They would make up excuses or tried to ignore my requests.
My sister-in-laws kids are exhibiting the same kind of mean and isolated feelings towards my boys. I wonder if she has told them to be like that or if they just picked it up by observing how my in-laws act towards my boys and me. My husband has never been close to them either--so we share the same sentiments about them. I don't understand it. I have tried and tried to bring all of us together, but nothing seems to help.
I have even decided to stop spending the holidays with them because of this mess. Well, i don't think this will ever change because it has not changed in the past eight years. We are at a point where we feel that we should establish our own family traditions and celebrate our own holidays together. It almost feels like we are starting from scratch.
My biggest worry is when my in-laws pass on. How will we gather with my other inlaws to grieve? Should we just show up after the ceremony in private? Oh well, i will figure it out when we get to the road.
Sorry about the ramblings,
The Gomez Family 2007
The problem is that i have alot of conflicting issues with my in-laws. They do not understand that our boys only have them to be close to because of my "other" family situation. Now, that my grandmother has passed away--they are the only extended family our kids have. My husband says that we are all the boys need, but i still feel that the role of grandma, grandpa, aunts, uncles, and cousins are important in a young childs life.
So, most of the 8 years i have been with my husband has been trying to nurture this relationship with my in-laws for my kids. It hasn't worked. I am constantly being left out of gatherings between my sister-inlaws and my father-in-law plays favoritism among the grandkids. I don't understand why i never got a chance to fit in, but it's not just me anymore---our boys are beginning to feel the inequality of the relationship between them and their cousins, aunts, and grandpa.
My sister, aunt, mother, and father inlaw have always treated me like i was just a passerby-- since day one. They do not give me any kind of respect, which i do not tolerate... i will actually come out and confront the problem. They then turn everything on me and make me look like the bad guy. Even when they know they are wrong they will all group together against me. My husband has been in alot of arguments with them about this, but i tell him that this is my battle. I feel bad that my husband has a wife that his family does not get along with. What is sad is that i have tried so hard to fit in. I have voluntarily babysitted, arranged get togethers between my sister-laws and i, and tried to bond with my mother inlaw. Well, everytime i was blocked. They would make up excuses or tried to ignore my requests.
My sister-in-laws kids are exhibiting the same kind of mean and isolated feelings towards my boys. I wonder if she has told them to be like that or if they just picked it up by observing how my in-laws act towards my boys and me. My husband has never been close to them either--so we share the same sentiments about them. I don't understand it. I have tried and tried to bring all of us together, but nothing seems to help.
I have even decided to stop spending the holidays with them because of this mess. Well, i don't think this will ever change because it has not changed in the past eight years. We are at a point where we feel that we should establish our own family traditions and celebrate our own holidays together. It almost feels like we are starting from scratch.
My biggest worry is when my in-laws pass on. How will we gather with my other inlaws to grieve? Should we just show up after the ceremony in private? Oh well, i will figure it out when we get to the road.
Sorry about the ramblings,
The Gomez Family 2007
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